#himtoo

When he was in his early 20s, my husband woke up at a party to find a woman he did not know having un-consented sex with him.  He was passed out drunk in a back bedroom alone when it happened.  The next morning, he woke up to find her still in bed with him, brazen and shameless as if she had done him a great favor.

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A Letter to my Daughter in the Age of Feminism.

Recently millions of women – strong, beautiful, brave women – came together in cities across the country to march for equality and empowerment.  They were passionate, unified, and got a lot of things right.  And they were loud.

And yesterday morning as I laid there watching you sleep peacefully, I was wondering exactly what kind of world you’re going to grow up in. I was thinking about the full set of values that these women were marching for, and I was wondering how they ended up grouped together so firmly.  Many of them are values I hope you have, goals I hope you march for – many, but not all.  But it can get so loud in the world sometimes that suddenly it can be hard to even make sense of who you are through all the clamor.  And it struck me that I’m going to really have to get my act together if I’m going to teach you to stand apart from it.  Because if not me, then who? Continue reading

Fifty Shades of Degradation

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Yesterday was election day.  The news was full of poll predictions and voter turnout stats.  My facebook feed was overwhelmed with selfies of friends adorned in “I voted!” stickers.  The word on the street was that lines at the voting booths were wrapping around buildings, out into the rain.  For the politically minded, it’s all very exciting indeed.

Let me be clear right up front:  I do not wish to be political on this blog (or ever, actually), but what I do want to be is socially conscious.  And what I especially want to be is gospel-centered and biblically sound.

This election season, and really this cultural season in general, has brought one particular topic to the forefront of debate time and time again. In recent years I have watched this issue mold and twist and morph into something almost unrecognizable, with no clear lines or simple meanings, and my heart has become increasingly broken for women everywhere.

The subject at hand goes by many names: “Feminism,”  “Female Empowerment,”  “Equality for Women,” and these names have come to simultaneously refer to many things: equal pay, equal opportunity, political power, ending violence, positive portrayal in the media, right to abortion, and sexual liberation.  [insert dramatic pause here.] 

Folks, some of these things are not like the others.
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